“Oh, how exciting! Do you know what you’re having???” was definitely the most-asked question after sharing the news that we were expecting. And rightfully so. I think it’s only natural for people to be super curious about if we’re having a boy or girl and we don’t mind being asked. It’s just so funny how people respond!
They typically respond with something along the lines of “That’s so fun! That makes it even more exciting!” or “How in the world can you do that!? I’m too much of a planner!” I see both sides and completely understand why some people want to know! Decorating the nursery, being able to buy adorable clothing based on the gender, etc.
But, we decided to wait until he/she makes their entrance to find out! I had always wanted to wait. My mom didn’t know with any of us (I have two brothers) and it seemed like so much fun to wait! There are few actual surprises in life, right? We plan almost everything we do, that a happy surprise is few and far between. James wanted to know, but agreed that he didn’t have to know and that we’d wait.
We chose to do the genetic testing, so we could have found out at 13 weeks and again at the 20 week ultrasound. Both times we held out and have no idea if we’re having a boy or girl! Initially, I was 100% on the girl train. Now, I have absolutely no idea or inclination either way. James is still set on the fact that we’re having a girl and it seems a lot of others are guessing girl as well. We will see come June!
My decorating style is super neutral anyways and I knew we’d go that route with the nursery regardless. On the clothing front, I see no problem in this baby wearing gender neutral clothing upon arrival, so I’m not worried about that! And, by no means do we need gender specific baby gear! We don’t need a pink car seat, or a blue stroller. We don’t need a super girly play mat or a bunch of truck toys to start. This all just means that come baby #2, we’ll have neutral items that can be used again. Their collection of things they own will increase after they arrive, I’m sure. I already have a few cute shops ready to order from once we know. 🙂
When it comes down to it, here is why we chose not to find out:
- We want to be surprised!
- I’m not a super huge fan of gender-reveal parties when it comes to what we would choose to do.
- We don’t need everything to be gender-specific. Baby clothes, gear, etc.
- It will add that much more excitement to sharing the news of his/her arrival.
- We don’t care either way! A happy, healthy baby is all we’re aiming for!
We’ve really enjoyed dreaming and thinking about if this is a boy or girl. It’s hard to imagine adding a little one to our family and this keeps things fun and light-hearted as we have no idea who this little one is and how much he/she will change our lives! It’s been fun hearing our friends’ and families guesses and we’re looking forward to finding out in June!